The object of courtship is not for fun and games, nor for pleasurable delights. Its true purpose is for selecting a proper mate: someone you would like to spend a lifetime with, someone you must be able to bear up under, enjoy, and find satisfaction with in a lifelong pursuit called marriage. It is the seeking for of one who will walk willingly by your side through life’s storms and trials: for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health; till death do you part. That is and should be the purpose of courtship. Anything less is at best sinful and to be rejected.
Courtship is not for wooing, mooing, pleasure, and gratification: it is serious business, and when spent wrongly it can complicate your life forever. It is a sad commentary that young men and women do not more carefully consider the wisdom of their action in courtship, do not reflect on whether they are guided by the light of divine wisdom, or are merely the outfall of impulse and unfettered emotion.
Courtship is to be a time of seeking someone with whom you can respect, admire, and give yourself to completely and totally, for all of your life, without reservations. Anything less than this will doom your chance of happiness and success in marriage to certain failure.
Courtship, like love, must not be based upon eye pleasing, outward appearance, and the artificial make-believe of togetherness of two young hearts melted in the sunlight of emotions: blinded by appearances and actions. BE IT NOTED, TWO PEOPLE IN THE DRAMA OF COURTSHIP ARE LIKE ACTORS ON A STAGE: YOU NEVER SEE THEM AS THEY REALLY ARE, YOU ONLY SEE THE ACT THEY ARE ENGAGED IN, THE SCENE THEY ARE ATTEMPTING TO DISPLAY: MAINLY, THE SELLING OF THEMSELVES AS BEING THE CHARACTER THEY REVEAL IN THE PART IN WHICH THEY ARE PLAYING. In other words, in courtship you never see the real person you are looking at, only how well they play their part. Both the man and the woman are putting on a phony display: pretending to be something, or someone other than what they really are ...... what you see may not be what you are getting.
WARNING, DANGER: In courtship each is to be warned that, what you see may not be what you are getting. However, you can be assured that you will never get more or better than what you see, but you may get a lot less. Love, but do not love blindly: love, but never expect that you can change the other person after the marriage. They will never get better, but always worse.
To be sure of what and who the person you are dating is, take a long hard look at the woman’s mother…that is what, and who she will become, depend on it. Ladies, look at the boy’s father. That is in all likelihood just what he will become, in spades, or worse. NO! You cannot and will not change him after the marriage. If he will not treat you like a lady; with dignity and respect before marriage, it will not happen afterwards. If he will not attend Church with you before marriage, he will not do so afterward.
Ladies, remember this, if he jests, makes jokes about you, about the things you do, something silly you did, your dress, or how you may be; which causes others to laugh at you; discard him at the door. He is a cad, a brute, and a boor who will make your life miserable because he has no respect for you; he only wants to use you as someone to make him look better to his nasty friends. If they do laugh at you for some silly thing you may have done, then they are his kind of people, and you need to avoid their company also.
Courtship should be to all who enter upon its threshold, a doorway to happiness and success; but to far to many it is a precipice to despair; and a chasm of darkness from which emerge only the tortured victims of a misspent lives, and shattered dreams. They clutter up their life with lusts, adultery, immoral acts, lies, and pretense that forever spoil their chance of happiness and the blessings of God.
Courtship has no place for immoral acts that provide only momentary pleasure. Be reminded that the intended mate that will have sex with you before marriage: may have practiced it with others before you. Also, they may not be adverse to practicing it with others again after the marriage. Know this, that adultery is as addictive as any known narcotic; especially in a man. NOTE: Ladies, when a guy pressures you to have sex before marriage: When he tells you that if you love him, you will satisfy his needs: it is because he has no morals, and seeks to bring you down to his level. Be sure of one thing, he has no love for you and little respect. To succumb to his demands insures that he will have absolutely no respect for you after he has used you.
Marriage should be a required study in our schools of higher learning. Every male and female should be required to have passing grade in this course before graduation. No one should be granted a license to marry until they have proof of satisfactory completion of this course. The alternative should be that the couple return to the old and proven way that worked so well for thousands of years, namely this: THE PARENTS CHOOSE FOR THE BOY OR GIRL A MATE. A MATE SATISFYING TO THEM. THE COUPLE SHOULD HAVE NO CHOICE IN THE MATTER. Children, you may think this is a joke. Just show me the parent that is not sure that they could have made a better choice for their son or daughter than the one that was chosen.. No father ever had a daughter that married a boy “good enough” for his precious child. Just ask them!!
Marriage should be a required study in our schools of higher learning. Every male and female should be required to have passing grade in this course before graduation. No one should be granted a license to marry until they have proof of satisfactory completion of this course. The alternative should be that the couple return to the old and proven way that worked so well for thousands of years, namely this: THE PARENTS CHOOSE FOR THE BOY OR GIRL A MATE. A MATE SATISFYING TO THEM. THE COUPLE SHOULD HAVE NO CHOICE IN THE MATTER. Children, you may think this is a joke. Just show me the parent that is not sure that they could have made a better choice for their son or daughter than the one that was chosen.. No father ever had a daughter that married a boy “good enough” for his precious child. Just ask them!!
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